To the woman I was before Motherhood:
I’m sure you’re thinking ahead to your future. You’re so excited to find the right man, get married, settle down and have a family. Trust me, it’ll happen, but before it all does, enjoy your time. Take it all in.
Don’t rush. Allow yourself time to enjoy your freedom, to enjoy the man of your dreams when it’s just you and him. Go on more dates. Be spontaneous. Live in the moment!!
Before bringing little ones into this world, really enjoy the alone time with your husband. Go on that date, even if you have a long wait time for a table. Take a long way home just to have more time listening to the radio and talking about anything and everything. Enjoy the free time you have, you’ll miss it, believe me.
Being a mother is going to be one of the best, yet hardest things you will ever do. The days will, at times, be long and the nights even longer. There will be days you may not even get to shower before you pass out in bed until your baby’s next feeding.
Motherhood has many ups and downs to it. One of the big ones being the changes your body has to go through to birth these beautiful babies.
Your body will no longer be the one your husband fell in love with. And that’s okay. You have grown, birthed, and nurtured amazing, healthy babies. Don’t be afraid to let him love your new body. Allow him to cherish it.
As hard as it may be, try to love your new body as well. After all, you are your worst critic when it comes to the changes you have gone through. The more you love your body for what it has done and accomplished, the happier you will be.
Not only will your body change, but so will your priorities… obviously. But seriously. The daily chores and spot free car? It’s not really going to be at the top of the list anymore. The sooner you realize this the less insane you will become.
Your babies take up A LOT of time. Squeezing in a few small chores here and there will happen, but nothing like before. Don’t stress! It will get done eventually, it will just take a little bit longer to get it done. Enjoy the cuddle time with your babies while you can, even if you have to put off chores for a little while because time really does go way too fast.
You may look forward to them reaching all of their milestones and them learning new things, and as exciting as it is, it’s a bittersweet moment. Not only are they growing quickly, but you soon realize how fast time really does go. Before you know it you’re planning your baby’s second birthday.
Cherishing those milestones is just as important as cherishing the time you have to yourself before the babies come. Take a long, hot shower. Watch movies all night or cuddle up and read a book or two. Go to town just because. Once babies are in the picture it makes even the most simple things a little more difficult.
As much as I love motherhood, I wish I would have savored the feeling of freedom a little more. Taking a long shower and uninterrupted bathroom sessions became a thing of the past. Along with hot meals and long, unplanned trips.
But as hard and time-consuming things can and will be after you have your baby, it’ll be worth it. Holding your baby for the first time will be the most amazing and happy feeling in the world. Knowing that you are the one they look to for comfort and love is indescribable.
There are days you may want to rip your hair out and others that are easy. Take it a day at a time. Being a mother is a learning experience for every mom, even if it isn’t their first baby. And I’m sorry to tell you this, but you won’t be perfect.
You will make mistakes. Sure, being the picture perfect mom who feeds her child all organic foods and this and that sounds amazing, but it won’t always be that easy. No one expects you to be perfect, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Be sure to set reasonable expectations for yourself, and don’t over-do it, or you will burn yourself out.
Being a mother is going to be hard, it is going to test your limits, and it will leave you completely drained at the end of each day. But it is worth every second. And as amazing as it is, be sure you take the time before motherhood to enjoy all the little things.There is a before motherhood, but there is never an after motherhood. You will always be a mother, no matter what. Click To Tweet
There is a before motherhood, but there is never an after motherhood. You will always be a mother, no matter what. Make both areas count!
a mom who has been there a time or two <3