Becoming a first-time mom is definitely nerve wrecking and filled with a lot of questioning yourself. You always have that fear of wondering if you are good enough, or if you are making the right decisions. I bet every. single. mom. has felt this way at one point or another in her journey of motherhood, so you’re definitely not alone!
Story Time! A First-time mom fail…
I know when I first became a mom I felt like I failed in ways that I shouldn’t be failing. At three months old my daughter had gotten her first ear infection. Ear infections aren’t super common with breastfed babies, so her over-extreme fussiness never made me think “oh, maybe she has an ear infection.”
I just thought maybe she had air bubbles and couldn’t relieve herself of them, or maybe she was starting to get a cold. I was up with her all night, rocking her in the rocking chair, hoping she would sleep for longer than fifteen-minute increments without crying.
The next morning my mom asked if she cried when I would feed her and if she hated when I would slightly bounce her to try and get her to sleep like I usually do. I told her well yeah, I don’t know what’s wrong.
She then took my daughter and blew lightly in her ears as she’s rocking back and forth with her, which calmed her down within seconds. My mom then told me that she probably has an ear infection. I honestly had no clue how, within five minutes, she could tell me what was wrong when I couldn’t figure it out in the ten hours I spent trying to rock her the night before… But then again she has been a mom for twenty-one years.
I felt horrible. My baby was in pain all night and I had no clue why. I felt like I had failed to take care of her. We all have felt this way. It’s mom guilt. We feel like we should have the answers to everything. As moms, we feel like we should be able to protect our babies and to always know what’s wrong. This is completely normal!
Don’t beat yourself up, momma.
Being a mom, especially a first-time mom is a lot to take on. You have a tiny human who is completely dependent on you. It’s scary, but it’s a learn as you go experience. You and your baby are learning each other. Each day you learn to pick up on their cues, whether they are hungry, tired, not feeling well, it’ll all start to fall into place.
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You begin to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t; what helps to calm your baby down and what makes them happy. Like I said, learn as you go. If you’re having a bad day, take a deep breath or two. Stay patient and sane. When you are stressed or angry or tense, the baby can sense it, which makes the situation even harder to handle.
Don’t ever be afraid to ask for help
Being a first-time mom really can be challenging, but the best thing about it? You can always ask for help!! Even if it isn’t your first child, you can still ask for help. We are not alone! Don’t ever be afraid to ask a question, even as dumb as you think it may be.
Like with the story I shared above, I had no clue why my baby wouldn’t stop crying. I couldn’t get her to relax. My daughter and I were completely exhausted the next morning, so I asked my mom, and she was more than willing to help out.
Let me tell you, my mom has seriously become my best go-to for advice when it comes to my babies. Any time of the day or night I know she will be there to help me. But I also know that I can go to my grandma, great grandma, aunts, and even moms in my mommy groups on facebook.
There are so many women out there who would be more than willing to help answer any questions that you have. Don’t ever feel like you are less of a mom for not knowing all the answers, I mean my mom has five kids and still talks to her mom for advice.
At the end of the day, motherhood is absolutely amazing
Being a mom is definitely one of the hardest jobs to do, yet it is one of the most rewarding jobs as well. You are able to watch your newborn grow and learn new things every day, and before you know it they’re a toddler running around the house being completely independent.
When you’re having a bad day, hang in there and just know how blessed you are to have a beautiful baby. Motherhood is amazing, despite all of the hardships you may face. Because after all is said and done, the love you see in your baby’s eyes for you is the best feeling in the world and it makes everything worth it at the end of the day.
Motherhood is a never-ending learning experience and we are all in this together momma! So keep your head up high and enjoy all the little things 🙂