Are you an overwhelmed mom? Always wondering if you’re making the right decision, despite what everyone else says? Always thinking to yourself if you’re really cut out for the mom life and second guessing if you’re doing it right? Never knowing for sure if you’re fulfilling all of your children’s needs?
I’ll be the first to admit, that’s completely me.
Becoming a mom is such an overwhelming and scary, yet exciting time in any woman’s life. You have so many thoughts, fears, and dreams of what it will be like. Will I be able to do this? What if I’m not the picture perfect mom? How do I know if what I’m doing is right? What does the future hold for me and my family? What is life going to be like ten years down the road??
SO. MANY. THOUGHTS!!!
Whether you are a first-time-mom or you’re having your second or even fifth baby, all of these thoughts keep coming. No baby is ever just like the one before it, so each baby is different. Each baby has their own struggles and strengths. And we as moms must learn all over again what works and what doesn’t for our new baby!
With me being a mom to two under the age of two, I often find myself questioning whether I am really doing a good job, or if I’m just going through the motions. Always second-guessing myself if they’re happy and getting enough of my undivided attention.
As a mom in this day and age, it is already hard enough to try and do our best with so many choices to make. And it makes it even harder when we are being judged cruelly in any action that we take.
Whether it be about breastfeeding vs. formula fed, being a stay-at-home mom or going back to work, deciding to go back to college or holding off for a little while. There is always someone out there who has an opinion that makes you wonder if you’re really making the right decision.
Guess what?? It’s NONE of their business.
If you want to breastfeed your baby, do it! Do you want to extend breastfeeding? Don’t give it up. You don’t want to breastfeed? That’s fine! If you wanna go back to work after your leave is over, kudos to you momma! You’d rather stay home with your babies if the opportunity is there? Take it! You want to finish school to build a better future and career opportunities for yourself? Hit the books! Wanna hold off on school for a bit to enjoy your little ones? Enjoy your little ones!
We live in a world where everyone has so many different opinions on things, it’s completely impossible to make everyone happy! So guess what? Do what makes YOU happy.
If you are a mom and you decide to do something, don’t let anyone make you feel lesser for that decision. You are a mom. You are making that decision in the best interests of you and your little one. By deciding to do one thing over the other, you are NOT being selfish. You are not neglecting your baby or your duty to work. You are simply doing what YOU feel is right.
We, as moms, always feel like we have something to prove. Like we need to be the perfect mother in every single aspect or someone will think we are failing.
But here’s what I have learned since I became a mother:
It honestly does not matter what anyone else thinks. Being a mother is our job. Any decision we make is in the best interests of us and our babies. Some women were made to be stay-at-home moms, others would rather return back to work. Many women choose to breastfeed and many are unable to or would rather use formula, and that’s perfectly fine!
That’s the beauty of motherhood. Just like each and every baby is different, so is each mother! There is no right or wrong to motherhood. There is no good or bad way to do it. And every decision we make is not taken lightly or made on a whim.
We are mothers. We do what we feel we need to do and when we need to do it. Being an overwhelmed mom in this world is completely normal. It’s actually almost expected, because what mom isn’t engulfed with decisions at one point or another?? Or in my case, 95% of the time!
There’s no need to feel like you have to prove anything
Being overcome by so many decisions is already hard enough, but when you begin second-guessing yourself due to unnecessary opinions? That’s when it becomes a problem. It causes you to try to impress everyone when there’s really nothing you need to prove.
If you are happy and your baby is happy, that is what really matters. That’s all the proof you need to show that you are a doing the right thing. You never need to try to prove yourself or change a decision because someone disagreed. If they can’t respect your decisions, then pay them no mind.
Learning to ignore the negative opinions of others will help you feel SO much better! There’s less pressure on you to try to make everyone happy and you begin to realize how little their opinions matter.
Being a mom is not an easy job. We make sacrifices. We are, at times, way outside of our comfort zones. But we do it for our babies. Everything we do is for our children. From the moment we give birth, we do what we can to make sure all of their needs are fulfilled.
We lose sleep over choices we’ve made or will have to make. As mothers, we hope that we are doing a good job. We are all trying to do the best that we can!
By learning to ignore those who only tried to put me down about decisions I’ve made, it has helped me grow as a mother. It had given me the freedom to not care what anyone thinks and to just enjoy being a mom!
From time to time you may ask someone about their thoughts on certain topics, but it is ultimately your decision on whether you take it into careful consideration, or allow yourself to forget it.
You control what you decide as a mother. You are the key to your little ones’ happiness. So next time someone has a negative opinion to share about a decision you’ve made, always remember that you know what’s best for you and your baby, not them.